It’s a common narrative: “I don’t like hanging out with girls. They’re too dramatic. Guys are better.” The notion that spending time with women is unpleasant and having male friends is preferable makes sense on the surface, but the logic holds no substance whatsoever.
I admit I have been there. I am not sure if this feeling was spurred on by the fact I had three brothers who I spent my formative years with or some traumatizing early female friendships but over the years (thanks in most part to some fabulous ladies) I have found that while having guy friends is great (I mean someone has to be on hand to explain the so called simplicity of the male species to us), finding and nourishing strong, positive, supportive, transformative female friendships is key for all us girls.
“…Friendship between women is different than friendship between men. We talk about different things. We delve deep. We go under, even if we haven’t seen each other for years… It’s my women friends that keep starch in my spine and without them, I don’t know where I would be. We have to just hang together and help each other.”
~ Actress Jane Fonda ~
Friendship is vital to ones health, well being, and happiness. Female friendships though – real, genuine, honest, open and joyful female friendships – are a beacon of resplendent light, like no other. In a world where the media has staged a progressively negative war on women and traditional patriarchal ideologies threaten to rule the world, we need all the help we can get without having to explain why. Women get that.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. So never miss the chance to appreciate your girlfriends for their time, care, love and simply friendship. Embrace those early Saturday morning walks, monthly tea’s, spa and salon visits, impromptu road trips, the excruciating Bikram yoga hour, extended lunch or coffee dates, and happy hour and meat eating rendezvous. For those moments will strengthen your resolve, give you the extra push to make the move that’s right and way overdue, give you the courage to step out in faith, hold you up when your knees buckle, hug you tight when no words can express what you are feeling and yes, when you do win, when you do achieve success, they will be there to remind you to dance regardless of whether you know the right moves and celebrate as you deserve it.
And lets face it… the year is 2016 and guys still don’t understand why a quick trip to the store will turn into a few hours lost in the mall or why you need that third pair of shoes in opalescent blue. Your girls always will … we’ve got your back (including steering you away from your third pair of shoes in opalescent blue that we both know you don’t need).
Now go, go and celebrate the important female friendships in your life… cheers!
What do you love most about having close female friends? Comment below.