The phone rings. You pick it up and hear two words. “I quit”. Your response should be equally succinct. “Congratulations! Tell me more.” Regrettably, that is rarely the case. Why? Quitting is always guilty until proven innocent.
So why all the negativity? Could it be because quitting always gets confused with giving up? Or maybe it’s because deep down inside where we hide our true authentic selves, we all have something we need to quit and are quietly envying those who found the guts to actually do it?
Yes, there are times when quitting is a cop-out. The seemingly easy thing to do. However when the investments are high and the emotions even higher. Quitting is never easy. It’s never what we want or wish to do. It is however what one might need to do to restore some sense of order out of the ensuing engulfing chaos.
Quitting is not always the negative attribute you may have been cautioned against. It is actually something that you should consider embracing. Hanna Brooks Olsen suggests that maybe it’s not so much about embracing quitting as it is about reframing it as “making room for starting.”
“When you quit all the things that aren’t working for you, when you quit tolerating all the negative things that hold you back, you’ll create a positive ‘charge’ in your life as well as create the space in your life for more positive experiences.” ~ Jim Allen
So if you would like to embrace the positive side of quitting, start with a personal quit list. A personal quit list according to Jim Allen allows for an audit of one’s life that will reveal either things you do and/or tolerate that hold you back, slow you down, or affect you negatively in some way or another. Quitting those things will undoubtedly create space for something new.
If you need help starting a personal quit list, Silvia Mordini offers the following 15 suggestions you may want to put on your list.
- Quit your worry habit.
- Quit waiting to get permission.
- Quit holding it in: Just go ahead and let yourself go.
- Quit being concerned with what other people think about your life.
- Quit waiting for someone to love you before you think you’re good enough.
- Quit movies you don’t enjoy. Just stand up, walk out, or turn off your TV.
- Quit books that are half-read and uninspiring.
- Quit making yourself sick by sticking it out (creating a surge in stress hormones like cortisol).
- Quit looking backwards and trying to understand why things happen.
- Quit comparing yourself to anyone else—even yourself at a different age.
- Quit waiting to start living your life once you have everyone—or everything—in order.
- Quit postponing the travels on your bucket list.
- Quit the job you hate.
- Quit social media and get over your fear of missing out.
- Quit waiting for things to be perfect before you get started.
So what will you quit today?
“Quit because you’re confident. Quit to be effective. Quit to be strong, to progress, and to be efficient. Quit to love. Quit to live; there is no wisdom in finishing if you die in the process.” ~ Nolan Speaks