… people who feel better about themselves by bringing others down.
… thrive on confrontation and the chaos they create.
… their goal is to embarrass, humiliate, ridicule, demean and shame.
The word “trolling” actually comes from a fishing technique in which one casts out bait to catch fish—and that’s exactly what internet trolls do. They use rude statements and other techniques to try to “lure” you into getting angry or responding.
When a troll is on the prowl, you will feel compelled to react to them. DON’T!
Trolls are generally impervious to logic and reason. The chances of changing a troll’s mind are zero to none. Don’t take their bait and give them the satisfaction of a reaction.
But Not Everyone is a Troll
We have a natural tendency to run away and hide from negative criticism. We need to be wary of this ‘flight’ response because we maybe ignoring completely legitimate constructive criticism that might help us improve.
Not everyone wants to see you fail. If you want to figure out if a person is being genuine or is just trolling, start by questioning them politely and calmly.
A troll won’t be satisfied unless you appear annoyed or angry so their response (if you get any at all) will be just as provocative as their initial comment. On the other hand, someone who is giving you genuine criticism will engage with you without being abusive and might elaborate on the comment they made earlier.
The Thirty Percent Rule
In James Altucher’s book, Choose Yourself, he said, “I’ve seen it in action repeatedly: no matter who you are, no matter what you do, no matter who your audience is: 30 percent will love it, 30 percent will hate it, and 30 percent won’t care. Stick with the people who love you and don’t spend a single second on the rest. Life will be better that way.”
You cannot de-troll your life. You only have so much emotion to go around and that should be spent on people who value it.
Should you encounter a troll, don’t stoop to their level. File the encounter under their respective 30 percent grouping and move on with the knowledge that … it’s always easier to critique a thing than it is to make a thing.
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